Men should work on their egos: Muinjangue

02 Nov 2013 15:00pm
WINDHOEK, 02 NOV (NAMPA) - A Social Work lecturer at the University of Namibia (Unam) encouraged men to work on their “fragile egos and be man enough to take it if a relationship comes to an end”.
Ester Muinjangue told Nampa on Friday on the sidelines of the fourth Social Work Stakeholders’ meeting here that men need to work on their egos, instead of killing their partners when relationships come to an end.
“Killing is a violation of human rights,” she reiterated.
Men should know that relationships do come to an end, but it is not the end of the world, said Muinjangue.
“You love someone today and tomorrow you realise that he or she is in fact not the right person for you,” she noted.
The lecturer said cases of “passion killing”, gender-based violence (GBV) and suicide are what social workers deal with every day.
“A lot of factors contribute to these evils in our society. Inequalities and power (struggles) in relationships are some of the contributing factors,” she noted.
Muinjangue said a man takes it very personal if his wife or girlfriend ends the relationship, and see the ending of the relationship as a sign of weakness.
“They decide that if they cannot have you, nobody else will have you, which is a fragile ego,” she explained.
Muinjangue said Namibia is in desperate need of more social workers.
“The number of registered social workers is not above 300, and in some regions we have one social worker to serve a population of more than 10 000,” she said.
She stressed that Namibia has a lot of social issues, such as HIV/AIDS, poverty, substance abuse, child neglect, baby dumping, and GBV - challenges which need to be dealt with by social workers.
Muinjangue then encouraged young people to enrol at Unam and study social work in order to make a difference in the lives of others.
“Being a social worker, you will never be bored because you deal with diverse characters and personalities. When I was a social worker, I could never predict how a day would look like. Every day was different from the previous one, and it is so enriching as one grows and matures personally and professionally,” she noted.
Muinjangue said it is very rewarding to meet someone whom you have helped in the past.