Tirades from the shadows

September 2, 2015, 6:35am
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Tirades from the shadows

The advancement of technology has brought with it a new kind of decrepit disease, the kind that sources its strength and confidence from the fact that it is shielded by a computer screen. I say disease because it cuts deeper than the punches of conventional bullies whom rely on physical strength to weaken their victims.

This disease is one of the most dangerous things to develop along side technology. At least with a conventional bully, one has the option of asking an older sibling to take them on and establish mutual respect through physical conflict.

The unfortunate thing about this disease is that it does not discriminate; It infects anyone in its path. However, it is what you chose to do once you find yourself in its clutches that matters. This disease is cyber-bullying.

I have read stories about people who ended their own lives or suffered mental breakdowns after succumbing to cyber bullying. Unfortunately because this type of bully has the option of remaining anonymous, they can be as vicious as they want with no thought of the repercussions for their actions.

I learned this week that celebrities are not immune to this disease and they gladly indulge in it on any given Sunday. They get away with it by creating multiple social media accounts with aliases and wreak havoc on their perceived arch-nemeses. Sometimes they even bully themselves in a bid to garner support and sympathy from fans, while spreading rumours about other celebrities.

These kinds of actions are expected from teenage girls still in high school who are fighting over a boy or trying to climb the popularity ladder. But from an adult, who is supposed to be a role model no less, it’s disgusting.

When celebrities are not busy trying to fight each other through guises, they are creating sub-standard work. It seems like our local celebrities need a lesson in morals and ethics. I nearly got sucked into one of these spats. It was only when I realised who the bully was that I retreated and realised that they were merely trying to use me as a pawn in their game of furthering an agenda that would break down another celebrity. Thankfully, I was able to reel myself in from the edge before falling into the bottomless pit of social media spats.

If you are going to bully or criticise someone, have the decency to do it to their face, as opposed to trying to use other people to further your own agenda. Perhaps if you spent more time on your work, as opposed to being a cyber-bully, you might actually be able to create irreproachable work.

Think about how you would feel if the roles were reversed, better yet think about the people who are looking up to you. What would they do if they found out what you, a public figure, were getting up to far from the gaze of the public? It’s time to grow up and get you s***t together. Stop hiding behind the keys of a message board.

by Faith Haushona-Kavamba